You’re Holidaying in the Wrong Place
You’re stressed at work, everyone is annoying you and you just need to get away from it all. There’s an upcoming holiday and that’s all you can think about. You know it’s exactly what you need and that it will recharge the batteries.
No it won’t…
Just getting away from it all is great, but we all know what happens. Let’s say it’s a 2 week holiday. It takes the first 3-4 days to wind down and start to relax, then you have a good 3-4 days, then for the last 3-4 days you can see work again at the end of the tunnel and you start to think about work and the stress starts to build.
The problem is that we think the holiday will fix the problem, that it will get rid of our stress, that it will renew our soul. But we are committing the oldest sin in the self-development handbook and that is relying on an external “thing” to fix our internal problems.
Our mental chaos is not being addressed by the holiday, it is being masked. Why do you think we drink so much on holidays? Because it helps us to forget about our problems.
No number of massages or walks on the beach will cure our mental stress because we are on holidays, we are just trying to escape.
Holidays should be a bonus in our lives, but the problem is that the majority of us use a break as a tool to escape their mental and emotional stress. The problem is that they are using a tool they have no control over and they are not addressing the core issue, and eventually they wil return to work and nothing has changed.
Start taking small mental holidays regularly. Spend time sitting quietly and looking at your situation. Sit with your emotions. Understand how they have control of you. Understand how the actions of other people, who you have no control over, are impacting your happiness. Stop fighting against these things and make a conscious effort to simply control the controllables and let the rest be.
This is a REAL holiday…a holiday from your state of being.
